men and women of God are not prohibited from attending parties and social events. there is certainly nothing wrong with socializing. in fact, Jesus was an avid party goer. He was always eating and drinking, labeled in His time as a glutton and drunkard. He even made more wine when He had to — just to keep the the party going.
so my devotion to Christ is definitely not the reason that i have shied away from big affairs. it is also not because i am getting self-obsessed. i love to hear about other people’s lives, especially moving and inspiring ones. i would drop (almost) everything to be in the hilarious company of my friends and chit chat about anything under the sun.
i just feel that attending all these social gatherings, shows, and launches takes too much time and commitment from my end. it spreads me thin.
you see, after a day’s work, i don’t feel i am done yet. i have a family to go home to who loves to have me around, have me listen to their stories or have me talk about mine. so my dining table is always a place to hang out a bit more — to discuss the day and plan for the next. that is where anyone (in the flesh or on skype) who has news, good or bad, converge.
and, i can’t miss all that. i can’t exchange it for fleeting conversations with people i hardly even know.
and after all that family time downstairs, comes the needed “me” time upstairs — to freshen up, exercise a little, unwind, surf the net, or read. then capping the day, is, of course, communing with the most important Person in my life — my Lord and God.
i can’t miss all that, too. i can’t exchange it for superficial encounters with people who, when push comes to shove, won’t even care about me.
but i am happy for all those years that i socialized around because they expanded my network of acquaintances. and there is no telling that some of these casual friendships could grow deeper. or, that other closer relationships are in the offing with people i haven’t met yet.
all i know is that in being consecrated to God, i ought to love people and hold them in my heart. i realize, though, that it is best to focus small in order to create the greatest impact.
“we must make a deliberate determination to be interested only in what God is interested. the way to make that determination, when faced with a perplexing problem, is to ask yourself, “Is this the kind of thing in which Jesus Christ is interested, or is it something in which the spirit that is diametrically opposed to Jesus is interested?” — My Utmost For His Highest
“My Lord, thank You for my family. thank You for my friends, old and new. bless me that i will be a blessing to each of them and to those i am yet to meet. i love You, Jesus, my love.”